Fear freezes us on our path…Love lights the way…-by Paige Land

Fear and love! The two biggest driving energy forces in our life. Everything comes down to fear vs love. Every decision or resulting outcome of a decision made for you, every success/failure, the ability to feel compassion and experience human connectedness, etc…

We all make decisions daily based on either fear or love. When you become aware of this fact, you can then begin to recognize these forces in your life and identify how you will approach changing the direction you are stuck in vs the direction you should be headed in.

Fear driven choices will prevent you from wanting to try for another child after a loss, or cause you to not speak up to get a deserved promotion at your new job because that is why you got fired at your old job. Fear will keep you from accepting others into your life because someone prior hurt you. Fear will disguise itself as a form of protection. In reality it is not protection you are achieving but instead blockage to love and openness that is actually the only course to healing. Fear initiates cyclic patterns of grief, bitterness, anger, rejection tactics etc… after a loss. Fear tells you something is not attainable before you try. Love tells you try because despite success or failure you still learn, so what is there to lose?

So let’s talk about LOVE! How do we LOVE more and FEAR less?

The answer is unique to us all and comes through much trial and error. It takes experiencing FEAR surrounding a situation or decision to acknowledge it and then be able to shift it into LOVE. This is where talking to myself and checklists come in quite handy. HAHA! When I first started to really embrace LOVE vs FEAR, I would try to talk myself through every situation however after a while I would forget and fall into my old habits of just reacting then trying to repair later. I knew I needed a reminder posted somewhere for me to see daily. Oddly enough, one day while shopping a small sticker literally jumped off the shelf as I walked by. I picked it up and it read simply: LOVE>FEAR. (I love it when things like that happen)

It took me a second to be pulled back into the dreaded days of math to realize it was the symbol in between that made the statement. I stuck it on the steering wheel of my car and I look at it every day. After the reminder was in place I then began self-checking when decisions arose or often in the aftermath of an emotional breakdown when I realized I may have not chosen correctly. Either way it is a learning process that I am still undergoing, however each day get easier and I get quicker now at identifying what is driving me in the moment, love or fear.  I would self-check by using this simple statement: I LOVE________ more than I FEAR_________.

Ex: I love myself more to attract a partner in my life, than I fear the idea of rejection or loss. * Then put yourself out there and allow the universe to send you all the greatness that is in store.

These are simple steps we can all begin with and I encourage you to explore some for yourself.

To summarize, we cannot live a truly fulfilled life from a place of fear. We may find contentment in our life, a false safety net or a different version of happiness for ourselves but indefinitely we will at some point see regrets come back to haunt us. We are energetic, spiritual beings that thrive life after life. We owe it to ourselves to walk in this power and we do this by loving more and fearing less.

So the next time something major is happening, a decision needs to be made or you are desiring a change in life, take a moment to evaluate all the concerned areas. Once you can identify all the parts of your current life that are not ideal or not what you expected then you can begin to ask yourself one by one what is causing this to stay in place. Identify whether love or fear based decisions led you to your current situations or are hindering you from leaving. Then take small steps to start shifting and rearranging your life based on love.

**** And most importantly do not forget to share all your wonderful success stories with me**** J

Paige

Why our little humans choose us……..

Our little humans are souls waiting to reincarnate. We were once little humans waiting to do the same but now as parents we get to experience this relationship from a different perspective. Because they are souls plotting the next life:

-They know what they need/want to learn before they get here

-They know what role you will play in helping them execute their soul contract

-They love who you are because they can see your true soul as it was prior to being exposed to our physical negativity chains

-They want a certain family and lifestyle which will aid in achieving what they wish for this life

-And most of all they know YOU will need them as much as they will need you in order to learn, evolve and in some form heal

I get so excited about topics like this. There is so much depth to the question of why our little humans choose us and if this a new concept for you then even more open-mindedness is needed. I will try to keep it simple while at the same time give insight to the many different angles of this complex topic. One of the most basic metaphysical ideals is soul contracts. As we go through life wondering why we experience good vs bad, hardships vs success or why certain things affect us like difficult emotional situations, phobias, heartbreak, death or sickness, much of this is explained with the foundational concept of soul contracts.

If you can consider that we are energetic souls living in a physical body then this will make more sense to you. For most of us, our souls have lived many times before this lifetime. When our physical body dies our soul does not. Instead we take a trip back home to the other side, behind the veil, or heaven, whatever you choose to call the place you believe in. While visiting we become reenergized and are able to commune with God, lost loved ones, Ascended masters, Spirit guides, Angels and many other magnificent life sources that helped us through the life we just exited. At this time you review your life, heal from regrets of things you would have done differently, celebrate your successes/growth and are then able to decide what you need to work on and achieve for further evolvement in future lives. Once your review is completed and you feel energized to begin again, then comes the exciting part. You get to sit with all of your guides once more and develop a soul contract for the next life journey that you, your guides, and God will collectively sign off on. You will decide what lessons you want to learn. You will decide on relationships and hardships that will enable you to evolve further in the next life. You will plan out every detail of what you wish to achieve and who will assist in helping you, including (drum roll)…your parents!!!!

I know I have you all laughing hysterically right now. If you are anything like the millions of us out there that question constantly why we had the parents we did, then you will definitely be revolting from the idea of the fact that you chose them. But despite how insane, traumatic or even possibly beautiful your childhood was, the truth is you did choose them and at some point in your soul journey it will become clear to you as to why.

Childhood is one of the most exciting yet confusing and difficult times we go through. It creates the foundation for belief systems, character traits and self-worth ideals. Most of the time we never escape it without some form of scaring but somehow for the most part we always survive, heal and are able to still love and embrace our parents whether from afar or more closely connected. We at some point acknowledge they too are only human, surviving their own journey, and learning from mistakes. As a kid, unfortunately you often feel as if you are just along for their ride which sometimes doesn’t feel so good, but remember you are all in the same car. Since we choose them, what does that mean to us once we begin having our own children? Well, as a parent myself that is precisely why this topic of why our little human choose us, is so dear to my heart.

Only over the last few years have I been able to grasp reasoning behind why I would have chosen my parents. As Spirit one by one revealed the kids that were choosing me, I became intrigued with understanding this part of our soul contract decision. What spirit showed me came with a lot of work on my part in accepting the idea I signed up for the hardships I faced from my childhood first. I was forced to do a lot of soul searching around what was being shared with me but finally I was able to put these thoughts into words that you are currently reading. The fact is, had I not been rejected, shamed, left to feel lonely at times, disappointed and made to feel insecure, I would never have had the experience to be living in the spiritual place I am now. I would never have searched for love in order to finally understand real love when I felt it. I would never have learned forgiveness or compassion and how those virtues are core values to my soul journey. And most importantly, I would never have been as open as I am today to the world of the Divine that allows my daily continued evolvement.

Upon meditating with this concept I have learned, despite feeling that the parents we have today may not have felt ideal, in reality we knew exactly what we needed when choosing them. We wanted to be challenged early in development so that we could help others and advance in our soul journey much easier than those with less experience of hurt. There may have been karmic cycles we wanted to break (which we will talk about more in future posts) and the parents we selected were based partly on this as well. In return it became clear I chose my parents in order for them to learn acceptance, become more open minded and be forced to learn to express emotion/unconditional love. Which all of the above we are still collectively trying to achieve. HAHAHA!!!

Now for those of you who had a wonderful childhood and great parents, congrats! You were lucky enough to be able to evolve from lessons previously learned or chose to learn them from a different approach. Nevertheless you will experience what you need from other areas of your soul journey, no matter what background you stem from, regarding this concept. We all learn what we came here for whether throughout life or when exiting. We will all execute our contracts, perfectly or not and will have wonderful memories and stories to share.

So again, why do our little humans choose us???

Because they understand what they need to achieve and will uniquely select us based on helping them execute their soul contracts. The soul of our children know before they come here what it is they will need from us. Our job is to provide an environment of understanding and exploration of what the specifics are. We cannot live out their journey for them, but we can do the best on our part to always remember we were chosen so therefore we need to honor our role in that decision. Bottom line is, we need each other to evolve and we will choose the proper relationships to aid in that.

So the next time you feel like a failure because you had a bad day with the kids or your teenager is yelling they hate you, just remember, they chose you and the emotion around not understanding why is what drives the discord. Instead of beating yourself up or distancing from them consider just taking a moment to ask Spirit for insight on what they need. Acknowledge they would not have chosen you if you were not up for the job and rest in knowing that just like you they are searching for themselves. Strive to be the parent that steps out of the box of traditional thinking to reach your child where they are and help them uncover why specifically they chose you so that you can raise a soulful energetic being that can possibly escape childhood with the least drama as possible.

Most importantly sit back and enjoy the ride. Celebrate the fact a soul chose you to be their parent regardless of how successful you end up being at that role. Embrace the little human who came into your life and look forward to the lessons you both will learn from each other. Take time to understand your deeper soul connections to one another instead of getting bogged down with day to day tasks and struggles. Remember this specific lifetime is the only one you get like this if you choose, so make every detail of it count for something. We are parents but most of all souls stuck living a human experience. We may not be perfect but we were chosen. Now do something with that!!!!!

The Empowered Women vs The Feminist

Which mommy do you want to be?

Feminism and the ideals surrounding it have been discussed and evolving for years. Depending on what view you may have or where you find yourself in relation to the feminist movement the meaning of what a true feminist is can be quite different for each woman. Some feminist ideals carry an energy of victimization surrounding the notion that because we are women we have to work harder to gain individualism and respect in order to be equal with our male counterparts and if we do not receive the promotion or credit due us then it must be because we are a woman. This attitude often can lead to laziness and lack of responsibility for our actions or even worse can create an air of competition and drive that clouds the true vision of what the feminist woman may actually be trying to achieve. With feminism, comes an energy of divine strength and that is something to always be cherished. But with no clear explanation of a movement that is so widely acknowledge, much can be left to our own interpretation. As we all know, it is far too easy to allow interpretations to become our truths that we then pass down to generation after generation. I don’t know about you but I am tired of passing down lifeless knowledge just because someone told me it was true. The knowledge I want to share with my daughter must come from a place of experience and divine insight.

The idea that being a strong independent women who needs no one’s help and who can achieve great success in the face of adversity alone, actually creates a separation from the oneness we were created to be as spiritual beings experiencing a human soul journey together. It creates a mindset of slight disrespect and lack of gratitude for those who came before us and paved the road for women to become independent with a more spiritual plan in mind. It discredits all the wonderful souls we share life with and encounter daily that have an important role no matter the size, in helping us propel into our true identities and stay on our soul path. The individuals who helped in setting the feminist movement in motion wanted equality and mutual respect for both sexes. They wanted women to be heard and appreciated for the feminist qualities they possessed that were needed to create balance in a time of extraordinary shift. The movement was meant to unite, not initiate greater separation. This skewed view of feminism is where I feel an empowered women can teach the difference.

Empowered women are of course in touch with their feminist qualities. They are often independent, strong and have proven countless times the ability to provide for their own needs and the dependents around them. The difference comes that in the midst of being able to stand alone and proud in that, the empowered women recognizes where her strength comes from. She draws from the energy of the Divine. She understands the importance of being centered, grounded and comfortable with self without letting her confidence be ego driven. This egoless empowerment protects her from inner feminist selfishness and manifests the same goals a feminist tries to achieve but from a more spiritual place of love and compassion. The empowered woman has gratitude for the situations in her past that helped personal soul evolvement. She credits much of her achievements to the support systems in the present that recharge her daily and she unites with energies of the future  allowing them to guide her along the path of learning about her true divine self. The empowered woman recognizes that she is not “all powerful” but is allowed to be who she is with the help of others around her. She can stand alone and she can be on her own but she never forgets that the road is better traveled with others as we are all one. An empowered woman takes pride in her inner self worth but will not degrade others to prove it. She is selfless, egoless, and confident to stand in the beauty of her own inner truth no matter what situation she faces, or what social group she finds herself aligned with. Empowerment driven by love not ego allows her to shine her light wherever she goes without effort or need to prove her position.

No matter what religion or spiritual background you spring from, the principles are the same. We are connected and our actions always affect those around us. Every decision we make creates a ball of energy that can either destroy or restore.  We can choose to make good connections that empower us or negative connections that at some point we will have to disassociate with. All of this is part of our soul journey and lessons to evolve us. Because we are connected, energetic beings we must always show gratitude that we are not doing this journey alone. We can be only as intelligent as the information we strive to know and can be only as empowered as the connections we hold to other energetic souls around us.

When you become empowered these ideas discussed become your truth; a truth that can be proudly shared with your daughters for future generations to embrace. When you begin to latch on to the empowerment available to you, not only will you feel more self- fulfillment but you will become the amazing mommy you earnestly seek to be. You can be honest about expectations of yourself, accept flaws or failures without associating shame to them and be more open to channeling Spirit/ Universal God energy to give you wisdom to raise soulful children as well as influence the birth of numerous other empowered mommies.

I encourage you to think about your own empowerment today. Where do you stand on the line of feminism vs empowerment? Which energy would you like to share with your children? And then from a place of personal understanding, please share this blog with all the extraordinary women in your life so that our universe can begin to shine a little more brightly each day. Just think what you can do on your own when you feel empowered and then imagine how much greater that would be with millions of other empowered women behind you.

Blessings in love, light and Divine healing